How Journaling Can Accelerate The Healing Process

Before I began journaling myself I always used to wonder what the point was? I thought it was only for those arty, creative types who just love to express their feelings, but I was wrong.

Journaling can be beneficial to absolutely anyone wanting to achieve a goal in their life, which in my case was to become totally migraine free and now totally headache free.

As I progressed through my journey I learned that the more I used my journal on a daily basis, the quicker I overcame challenges, found clarity and as a result my health improved at an accelerated rate.

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What Is Journaling?

Journaling is keeping a written record of the emotions, thoughts, experiences and observations surrounding your life. It allows you to release pent-up thoughts and emotions, increase your focus, evaluate your failures and successes, brainstorm ideas, find clarity in difficult times, record your progress and help you track patterns and trends.

The art of journaling allows you to become your own inner counsellor, helping you to truly listen to your gut and navigate through life challenges whatever they may be.

For me, my journal became the place where I was able to find clarity. I was able to link specific symptoms with life events and evaluate health setbacks and why they didn’t go my way.

It gave me time to look inwards, learn, set goals, reflect, practice gratitude, listen to my body, prepare for medical appointments, release any frustrations and recite and create affirmations. It allowed me to connect the dots of the puzzle called health and understand how my beliefs, emotions, mind and body all interlinked.

Keeping a journal is not the same a headache diary. 

How Do I Journal? 

There is no set way to journal, just do what feels natural to you. Take some time out of your day with a beautiful notepad and start writing.

Morning times are great for setting intentions, reciting affirmations and practising gratitude and evenings are a brilliant time to reflect upon the day’s events, challenges, what you did well, didn’t do so well and how you could learn from it and improve next time.

Additionally, you may feel the need to write after a significant event in your day when your thoughts and emotions are fresh to you at that time. Experiment and find what works for you. 

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Alternatively, you could also write about:

  • What activity made you feel great?
  • How much time you want to dedicate to self-care this week?
  • What you are currently working to overcome?
  • What your intention is for the week?
  • What relationships in your life benefit your healing process?
  • How certain emotions manifest in your physical body?
  • When you felt most loved and cared for?
  • What you want to bring more of and less of into your life?
  • What you are proud of the most this day, week or month?
  • Your victories and failures and analyse why they happened?

Can you see how spending time journaling can really give you space for clarity, awareness and room to understand your unique body on a whole new level?

I would love to know if you journal, and if so, how it has benefited you?

#Health #Journaling #Healing #Migraine #HealthCoach 

Your Genes Are NOT Your Destiny

Have you ever felt completely powerless to your migraines because they run in your family and have been passed down through your genes? Well, I am here to give you an absolute golden nugget of information that will change the way you view your health forever.

YOUR HEALTH IS NOT CONTROLLED BY YOUR GENETICS!

Yes, you heard me right. Let that sink in for a second.

For generations, we have been led to think that disease is determined solely by our genes, however, scientists have now discovered that this actually isn’t true.

Bruce Lipton a renowned cell biologist explains that only 10% of what happens to your body and health is in any way related to your genes. Just a measly 10%! Which means the remaining 90% is actually determined by our environment, such as our nutrition, emotions and subconscious beliefs.

#GROUNDBREAKINGALERT!

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So just because your mum, brother and great aunt Lisa suffer from migraines doesn’t mean that you have to!

Following on from that, I want to introduce you to the amazing world of Epigenetics. 

Epigenetics in the most basic, basic form is the study of our cells and how they can be turned on and off. Yes, this is actually possible.

So each cell membrane has receptors that pick up environmental signals, and what this does is control the “reading” of the genes inside the cells. These cells are so clever that they can choose to read or not read the genetic blueprint depending on the signals they are receiving from the environment.

Thus having migraines programmed in your DNA doesn’t automatically mean that you are going to live a miserable life full of pain. No no no! However, despite this, we have been programmed by the medical system to think this way.

Isn’t it true that a doctor always asks you what diseases run in your family? This simple destructive question programmes you into thinking:

  1. I will inherit this illness because it’s hereditary
  2. Because it runs in my genes there is absolutely nothing that I can do about it!

Wrong and wrong again.

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So how do we turn genes on and off then I hear you ask? Well believe it or not this is mainly done by our thoughts, attitudes and perceptions.

Do you believe that you will never ever live a life free from migraines? Is your attitude one of that no matter what you try and do to get a hold of your migraines they will always be in your life because they are genetic?

If so, maybe it’s time to realise that YOU are actually the one in the driver’s seat of your health! YOU are the one who has the ability to heal your body and YOU are the one who has the potential to change your genes and your story.

Now that’s got ya thinking…

#Health #Science #Epigentics #Healing #Mind #Beliefs

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Are Negative Emotions Causing You Physical​ Pain?

Have you ever wondered why when you’ve had an argument with a friend or family member you have a banging headache afterwards?

Trust me, this is no coincidence.

At first, I couldn’t see the link between negative emotions and pain. Well, this was probably because in the beginning all my pain just merged into one big mess so there was no way to differentiate one ache from another. However, throughout my healing journey, it suddenly became clear that there was an obvious link.

It didn’t matter what negative emotion I felt; fear, anger, resentment, frustration, disappointment, rage, jealousy, grief or sadness, it would all seem to manifest in my body the same way.

Pain.

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I first discovered this at the beginning of my healing journey. After losing my dream job to chronic migraines I was heartbroken. Feelings of anger, frustration and immense sadness filled my being every second of every day. I was literally grieving for my loss.

But after reading Louise Hay’s book “You Can Heal Your Life” I started to realise that those feelings were preventing me from healing. I had to let go and come to a place of acceptance, self-love and compassion for myself in order for anything to change. Going through this process I released so many of those harmful emotions and as a result, my body started to naturally heal itself. 

“The first step for any kind of healing and freedom is acceptance” – Peter Crone, Heal Documentary

Now being migraine free, it’s even easier to spot these instances. It’s so black and white there is no denying it. For me, I feel this instantly in my neck and shoulders but other people may feel it elsewhere.

Of course in life, we cannot completely avoid feeling negative emotions, we are human after all. However, there are steps you can take to reduce feeling those intense negative emotions on a regular basis that will over time start to benefit your health.

Give it a go! I promise you that you will only feel happier and healthier for it.

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   1. End Relationships That Don’t Serve You

Yes, it is ok to do this.  I would advise you do to a friend audit. Spend some time working out who lifts you up and who drags you down? Who are you excited to meet up with and who do you dread interactions with and feel drained afterwards? Who serves your health and who doesn’t?

   2. Control Your Reactions

Whilst trying to reduce negative emotions in my life I realised that so much of this was in my control. After all, 10% is what happens to you and 90% is how you react to it, so I simply had to make better choices. Walk away, distract yourself or just be the bigger person. Trust me, you are the only one who suffers and it’s never worth the pain.

   3. Step Away From The Drama

We all have those friends, right? The ones whose life just seems to be one drama after another? It’s not a coincidence by the way, they attract it. I had to end several friendships along my journey for this exact reason. Step away from the drama and watch your health flourish.

   4. Be Kinder To Yourself

Negative emotions don’t just come from our external environment, so many of the negative emotions we feel come from our inner world. We inflict pain on our bodies by feeling emotions such as unworthiness and self-loathing. So spend some time looking at whats going on internally and what emotions you feel on a daily basis that could be affecting your health.

   #HealthCoach #Pain #Heal #Migraine #Stress #Health 

 

 

There Is No Magic Migraine “Diet” – Just Eat Real Food!

Recently I have been asked a lot whether food played a big role in my healing and the answer is always a massive yes!

After switching to a clean, plant-based whole foods approach to eating, I began to see the results within just three weeks, which I feel was super quick.

However, people are desperate to know what “diet” helped me achieve those results. Was it keto, vegan, paleo, low carb, high carb, low fat, no sugar? And the answer is….

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None of the above. There is no magical miracle migraine diet. I simply went back to basics and ate real food again out of the ground, the way nature intended. It really is that simple.

Firstly, the word diet is not something I like to use because a diet implies a temporary change. As we all know diets don’t work because inevitably you will just revert back to your old habits, so this change to a healthier way of eating has to be a complete lifestyle change.

Every different dietary theory has the ability give you a migraine. For example, as a vegan you can end up eating a lot of processed soy, vegetarian meals tend to include a lot of cheese, and low-fat options tend to have a lot of added processed sugars. 

My point here is that you can make any “diet” give you a migraine, so it’s not the type of “diet” you adopt that matters, it’s the type of food you eat within that scope that matters. You could be a vegan and have awful migraines and but at the same time be vegan and be migraine free! It’s your choices that matter. 

I basically eat a very clean diet derived from nature. This means eating an array of:

  • Whole fruits
  • Whole vegetables
  • Dark leafy greens
  • Seeds
  • Healthy fats such as olive oil, avocados and nuts
  • Legumes
  • Beans
  • Some gluten-free whole grains

By eating the above you automatically remove all processed food, chemicals, additives, MSG, colours, artificial sweeteners, added refined sugars and harmful oils which I can guarantee are going to be the majority of your food-related migraine triggers. 

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It really is as simple these 3 rules:

  1. Eat clean (food that is minimally processed, unrefined and as close to its natural form as possible).
  2. Make fruit and vegetables your priority. Up the amount you consume of both.
  3. Make your food with a list of single ingredients to make real food. Such as using butternut, cumin, garlic and coconut milk to make butternut soup.

If you still feel as if you need some guidance in this area I would suggest you purchase a copy of The Medical Mediums Life-Changing Food Book because it teaches you how the food from nature specifically heals our bodies.

Also, if you missed my previous post on what real food is then click here to find out more.

My point is, whether you choose to be vegan, paleo or vegetarian you can still become migraine free.

 #HealthCoach #RealfFood #FoodIsMedicine #Health #Migraine 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You Are NOT Your Illness

After years of suffering debilitating chronic migraines that gave me no break between attacks, I know what it feels like to be completely stuck. 

The reality is, after years of pain, tears and struggle for so many people, myself included, this becomes your identity. There is no way around it.

You eat, sleep and breathe migraines. You eat, sleep and breathe trying to find a cure and you eat, sleep and breathe contact with other migraine sufferers in the comfort that they too understand the nightmare that you are living.

However, upon this quest, I learned a serious lesson, a lesson that helped me to break free from the painful cycle and that was…

What you think, you become. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine you create. 

Buddha.

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If you believe that your identity is chronic migraine then that’s where you will unfortunately stay.

Remember migraine warriors that you are SOOOOOO much more than that! You are here to live your dreams. You were put on this earth to share your passions with the world. You were meant to live a fulfilled healthy life. You are here fall in love, have a family and travel the world so don’t ever lose sight of that. You are NOT here to simply exist, you are here to thrive. 

So for me, when I took my focus off being a chronic migraine sufferer and started focusing on the life I wanted to live by simply changing my focus, the most amazing thing happened. My health started to slowly improve. 

And do you know why? Because it was the law of attraction working at it’s best.

So today I am going to share some tips to help you find you again and reclaim your identity from that nasty illness.

  1. Be Aware Of Your Company

Did you know that we are the average of the five people we spend time with most? That doesn’t have to be physically who we spend time with either. That could be through conversations on the phone, online contact or social media friends.

So if you are surrounding yourself with negative minded people who only focus on the sadness of sickness, then by the law of average that is where you will stay. On the flip side, this can work beautifully the other way round. When you choose to surround yourself with health-focused, like-minded, positive people it can only propel you in the right direction towards healing your body. 

Who are your top five and how do they influence you?  

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     2. Get In Touch With The Real You Again

What were your dreams before you got sick? What were your passions? What made you feel alive? Writing poetry, making your own music or cooking? Whatever it was, then this is what you need to reconnect to.

Take some time to journal and get in touch with who you really are as a person again. Who are you when sickness is not consuming you? What qualities do you love about yourself and what do you want to achieve once you are healthy again? Because you WILL be healthy again!

     3. Be Aware Of Your Voice

The words you speak hold an incredible amount power and create your reality so be careful what you say out loud and in your thoughts. For example, If you list yourself on your social media page as “chronic migraine sufferer, anxiety, depression” etc then how are you ever going to escape it? Instead, use empowering positive words to describe who you are such as “Kristie Hindley, healing from chronic migraine day by day, learning new healthy habits and creating positive change”.

Create your story and use worlds that reflect where you want to be because it goes a long way.

#ChronicIlness #Health #Healing #Illness #Health Coach 

 

 

What Is Self-Care And Why Is It Essential?

Online nowadays the word self-care gets thrown around a lot, but what does self-care actually mean? To always put yourself first? To make sure you have a morning and evening skincare routine? Or to take time out to go to a yoga class?

As a Health Coach, I would define self-care as “an act initiated by one’s self to maintain health through nourishing the mind, body and spirit”. 

So why is self-care so important?

Nowadays our lives are so busy that sometimes we forget to take care of ourselves. However, if this happens, it won’t be long before your body starts to sound the alarm and let you know in the form of a stinking cold, fatigue or even chronic migraines in my case.

Self-care can help you tune into your body, prevent sickness and help you find homeostases which is essential in maintaining health.

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When people first think of self-care, they think of having a day at the spa, a massage or some sort of beauty treatment, but self-care is so much more than that.

Self-care can be incorporated into all areas of your life. For example:

  • The food you choose to put in your body every single day is a form of self-care
  • The physical exercise you partake in is a form of self-care
  • The way you talk to yourself is a form of self-care
  • The relationships you choose to surround yourself with is a form of self-care
  • The way you manage sleep is a form of self-care
  • The mindset you adopt is a form of self-care

Can you see how if all the above fell out of balance there is a chance that your health could suffer as a result?

Self-care can be anything that nourishes your mind, body and spirit and will be individual for everyone. Some examples of this could be:

  • A long walk in nature with the dog
  • Writing in your journal to acknowledge the daily progress you are making
  • Taking some time out for meditation
  • Not letting anxious thoughts get the better of you
  • Going to a dance class
  • Buying yourself some fresh flowers just because you love them
  • Finishing work half an hour early to spend some quality some with your kids
  • Having some quiet time with a good book
  • Getting up half an hour earlier to prepare a healthy lunch for your day
  • Reciting a list of everything you are grateful for as you walk to work

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As you go through life and evolve, the self-care you need now will be very different to the self-care you need in say 10 years time.

Learn to simply check in with yourself on a regular basis and simply ask yourself “What does my body need in order to feel balanced right now? Trust your gut because it knows the answers.

Fall in love with taking care of yourself because your body is the only place you have to live.

 #Self-Care #Mind #Body #Spirit #Health #Happiness #Self-love

 

Are Food Imitating​ Products Taking Over Your Diet Without You Realizing?

Our ancestors did it best.

Thousands of years ago man would forage from nature and the environment for nuts, seeds, berries, plants, birds and small game. This was real food.

However, as technology took over we interrupted this natural process. After world war two convenience foods become the norm, yet this was originally created for storage longevity and ease of preparation on the battlefield.

And now unfortunately, over generations, this has evolved into what we now as a nation call “food”.

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Ok, so let’s go back to the definition of food in the dictionary.

Food – any nutritious substance that people or animals eat or drink or that plants absorb in order to maintain life and growth.

Nutritious substance? A very high percentage of the food we eat today contains no nutritional value whatsoever, hence why we remain so hungry most of the time, only then craving more “food” imitating products yet again because we are nutritionally starved.

As we have been brought up as children, (myself included), our perception of what is food, is warped. I grew up thinking “food” was coco pops, fish fingers, pizza, cheese strings, nik naks and pop tarts. Sure, I ate some fruits and vegetables and home cooked meals as well but the above was what I and all my friends ate.

Through my adult life I thought I ate a “healthy” diet but my perception of what “food” was then included special K bars, low-fat high sugar fruit yoghurts, low-fat microwave meals, granola bars, Walkers baked crisps, dried fruit and cuppa soups.

Newsflash! That is not food! Simply food-imitating products. THIS IS FOOD!

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Real food comes from nature. Real food contains just one ingredient. Real food is made by nature, not by man. Real food is doesn’t have ingredients, real food IS ingredients.

Let’s take pop tarts for example. Here are some of the ingredients taken from Kellogs website:

  • Bleached white flour
  • High fructose corn syrup
  • Sodium acid pyrophosphate
  • Monocalcium pyrophosphate
  • Soy lecithin
  • Dextrose
  • Caramel colour

Do you know what any of these are? Simply chemicals. So much of the food we eat today are chemicals created by man to resemble a food product. If I handed you a tablespoon of pure chemicals would you each it? No, well it’s the same thing.

My aim as a Health Coach is to try and turn our perception of what food is now, back to the perception of what food was by our ancestors.

Here are a couple of my fail-safe rules for eating real food again:

  1. Choose food with one ingredient, like butternut, and make food with a combination of other single ingredients.
  2. If you can’t pronounce it then don’t buy it.
  3. Real food doesn’t have a label.
  4. If it’s made by man avoid it but if it’s made by nature enjoy it.

It really is that simple. It’s time to return back to the way we ate before the food industry ruined food.

#Food #Nutrition #HealthCoach #WholeFoods #Health 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Chronic Migraines To 1 Year Migraine Free – How Did I Do It?

I can only describe this last year as one hell of a rollercoaster ride. Actually, that is an understatement.

Inflammatory foods create disease in the body so as a result, I eliminated harmful cooking oils, artificial sweeteners, sugars, refined flour products, gluten, dairy products, alcohol, meat, poultry, trans fats and any form of processed food. Click here to read more about how I have done this.

    2. Learned To Use Food As Medicine

Once all the nasties were out of my diet, I then began to repair and nourish my body with healing foods. I did this by eating a clean, whole foods plant-based diet which meant I was only consuming fruit, vegetables, nuts, seeds and some gluten-free grains. Click here for previous blog posts to get started yourself.

    3. Calmed My Nervous System

When you have been sick for a long time your body goes into ‘fight or flight mode’ as it is continually living in fear in the sympathetic nervous system. This continual stress takes its toll, so to heal you need to activate the parasympathetic nervous system which I did by slowing down, learning diaphragmatic breathing, how to meditate and basic calming yoga stretches.

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    4. Disciplined Self-Care

Self-care can be as simple as a ten minute morning meditation, making time for some daily stretches or even spending some time at the weekend preparing food for your week ahead. YOU need to make time for YOU as no one else is going to do it for you. Click here for further reading on self-care.

    5. Visualized A Healthy Future

Every day I would do Dr Joe Dispenza’s hour-long meditations whereby I would visualize my life completely healthy. Science proves that your brain creates the same pharmacy of chemicals when you visualize something as if you were there, thus healing happens. This takes daily dedication but is totally worth it. Click here to learn more.

    6. Addressed Emotional Stimuli

You will be amazed how emotional stress affects your migraines subconsciously without you realising. I had to work on releasing emotions such as guilt, anger and feelings of unworthiness to be able to truly be free from emotional triggers. Click here to learn more about emotional stimuli.

    7. Practised Self-Love

I know you might not love where you are and who you are right now due to illness, but until that changes it is very hard to become free. When I learnt to accept that I am doing the best I can and actually look in the mirror and say “I love and approve of myself”, I stopped giving myself such a hard time, thus healing happened.

    8. Became My Own Teacher

We are so blessed nowadays to have access to a wealth of information all over the world. To become migraine free, every spare second of the day I would try to learn something new to further my healing through books, podcasts, online content, social media, audio books and more. Why not make the most of it?

    9. Focused On Health Rather Than Sickness

The law of attraction will bring you what you think about most and focus on. So when I discovered this I realised that I had to put all my energy into health rather than into disease. This meant leaving the migraine support groups and instead focusing on learning and surrounding myself with what I wanted. To be healthy. Click here to learn more on this.

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    10. Learned To Listen To My Body

I know this might sound a bit airy fairy but honestly, you know what’s good for you and your body and what isn’t. All you have to do is simply trust that feeling in your gut as it’s always right. It’s as simple as asking yourself “what do I need right now?” and just wait for the answer. It may be some time out, a quick meditation or to get outside in nature. Click here to learn more.

    11. Found Balance

Disease is essentially just the body being out of balance, so our job is to listen and find out what it is we need to rebalance ourselves and therefore regain our health. Is it more nutrients? Less stress? Or even just some more you time? Take some time to find what creates homeostasis for you.

    12. Changed How I Reacted To Life

It’s hard to admit but I used to love the drama. No matter what it was or what happened in my life, I could make it into something. But when I chose to step away from this and also changed my reaction to certain situations, my emotional stimuli reduced. This had all been self-inflicted. Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.

    13. Stretched Daily

Personally, after experimenting with my body, I found that 20 minutes of gentle daily stretching reduced muscle tension thus any muscular headaches. I also found that this practice calmed my mind every morning and contributed to my daily self-care routine. Click here to read more on this.

    14. Put My Health Above Everything Else

In order to become migraine free, my health had to be the priority. If I was ever at a point in my journey when I was questing whether to do something or not I would simply ask myself “Does this serve my healing right now?” and if the answer was no I wouldn’t go there. My healing had to come first.

    15. Believed That I Would Get There

Out all of these 15 actions, I have to say that this one is absolutely ESSENTIAL for any of the above to work. If you believe that you will always be a migraine sufferer then that will be your fate, however if you truly believe that freedom is possible then it is achievable. After all, what the mind believes the body achieves. Click here to learn more.

I apologise for the long blog post but I really wanted to share that it wasn’t one action that allowed me to become migraine free, it was a combination of many.

I also have say a huge THANK YOU to Anthony Cocco because without his amazing support and guidance I wouldn’t be where I am today.

I would love to know what area’s interest you and that you would like to know more about. Please leave me a comment below.

  #Migraine #Health #Healing #MyJourney #Headaches 

 

My HUGE Anxiety Breakthroughs And How They​ Can Help You Too!

Wow, I’m not going to lie, this process has not been easy. In fact, I think it’s been the hardest part of my journey so far. Yes, harder than actually becoming migraine free! Crazy, I know.
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Before I go on, I first need to apologise for the recent radio silence.
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Going through Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and working on trying to master my mind and my thoughts has literally taken up every hour of every day. It really has been a battle but I know in order to break through this, all my energy and focus needed to go into it so that’s what I’ve been working on these past few weeks.
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So let’s cut to the chase. What are my breakthroughs?
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    1. I CAN GET RID OF PHYSICAL PAIN!

Yes, this actually happened. After a week of a debilitating headache and eye pain and so much time spent indoors resting, I woke up one morning and said enough was enough.
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I sat down with my ‘thought monitor’ (which is a CBT process whereby you reduce your anxiety by through creating new positive beliefs) and filled in the worksheet in order to reduce my anxiety.
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As I read through the positive alternative beliefs I had created, I began talking to myself out loud and encouraging myself to overcome this. I said the following statements over and over…
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This is a signal to start to roll my shoulders and breath deep because this will pass.

I am in control, no one else.

I am NOT going to let this happen.

I am stronger than that and I KNOW I can do it.

I have BEATEN the migraines so I can BEAT this too.

I am doing it NOW!!!

And as I did something miraculous happened. Not only did my anxiety start to disappear but so did the eye pain and headache! After around 45 minutes of repeating this over and over and over whilst taking in deep breaths and rolling my shoulders, everything vanished!
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What on earth had I just done? I had taught myself that by completely eliminating my anxiety I can also eliminate my headache and pain! This was a revelation and it taught me that I am in the driver’s seat of my body and how I feel. This was a major breakthrough for me. 
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    2.  I CAN REDUCE MY ANXIETY BY SIMPLY SAYING NO!

So after my fifth CBT session, I started to become frustrated. I could use the ‘thought monitor’ effectively and get rid of my anxiety at that moment, however, when I ventured out into the world again it wasn’t long before those destructive thoughts would enter my mind and cause me havoc.
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I raised this problem in one of my sessions and my therapist advised me to simply say to myself when that thought comes up “I am simply not going to go there”. Then after that bring yourself back to the present moment and distract yourself with what’s happening in the now. It sounds so simple but oh my god it works amazingly!
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Then after discussing this with my amazing boss and mentor Anthony Cocco, who is six years migraines free, he elaborated on this and best described this process as a simple game of tennis.
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All you have to do is bat the thought away with your tennis racket as if the thought were a ball. Genius! I now even visualize this too.
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So since combining these two steps, everything has changed. Seriously, no joke. I suddenly have a new-found confidence as my anxiety is no longer holding me back and I’m now free to experience the joys of life again without having the chains of anxiety ruining my every move. I no longer find myself getting stuck in the moment, full of worry and doubt, unable to move, and instead I pause, take action and am able to carry on with the rest of my day.
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I guess like with anything in life, this of course is going to take a lot more practice, time and patience to perfect this skill and become a master of it on the court, however, it’s without a doubt worth the hard work.

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“You either control your mind or your mind controls you”

Napoleon Hill 

#Anxiety #Mind #Success #MyJourney #CBT #Health 

 

 

Learn Your Partners Love Language This Valentines Day

When suffering from an illness we all know that relationships tend to suffer, it’s just natural, right? Or is it?

What if you were able to understand what it is your partner actually wants and needs in your relationship? How to make them feel loved, appreciated and valued even through testing times?

Sickness or not this IS possible and I am going to show you how.

Let me introduce to you the 5 love languages.

Gary Chapman, the author of The Five Love Languages best describes this as the process of learning how your partner wishes to experience and express love. Once you understand which of the five love languages is their predominant language it will allow you to connect on a deeper level than you ever have before, illness or not.

As a migraine sufferer I’m sure you feel pressure to put a brave face on and plan that day out to be romantic just to show him/her how much you care, but with this amazing new tool that won’t be necessary. It’s so much easier than that.

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The Five Love Languages

All you need to do is click here and get your partner to take the test. It literally takes two minutes and once it is completed it will tell you which love language your partner prefers to give and receive love.

Now let’s dive into each category further and break down exactly what they mean.

Physical Touch

This person enjoys the experience of touch. Not necessarily sexual, more just the day to day experience of being close. This person feels loved by that simple hug, cuddling up on the sofa or holding hands. This makes the individual feel safe and secure in their relationship.

Words of Affirmation

This person enjoys being appreciated through words alone. Saying I love you means everything as does praise, compliments and hearing encouraging words of support. These kind and loving words speak wonders to this individual who needs this audio-affirmation to feel secure and loved.

Quality Time

This person feels connected and loved through the power of the quality time that they spend together. This could be doing activities together or simply time at home alone. However, this means having no distractions and the partner’s complete and utter undivided attention.

Acts of Service

This person feels loved when their partner is able to ease responsibility for them. It doesn’t matter how small but offering to make dinner or do the food shop shows them love and commitment. Actions speak louder than words for this individual.

Receiving Gifts

This person feels loved through materialism. A gesture of a gift speaks volumes, especially the thought and effort that went into it. They enjoy being visually spoilt as this makes them feel a deep connection of love to their partner.

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Now you understand what love language your partner wishes to receive, you can go about doing something nice for Valentines Day that aligns with their love language.

For example, if you partners top love language is acts of service then maybe you could look after the kids one afternoon and send your wife off for some R&R time to treat her.

Or if your partner’s love language is quality time, why not dedicate a day solely to each other. No phones, no computers and no TV. Spend that time talking, laughing and enjoying each others company again. This will show them that they are truly loved.

It is also a good idea if you too take the test so that your partner can understand how to make you feel loved each and every day.

Happy Valentines Day!

    #Relationship #Health #Love #Connection #Healing