Learn Your Partners Love Language This Valentines Day

When suffering from an illness we all know that relationships tend to suffer, it’s just natural, right? Or is it?

What if you were able to understand what it is your partner actually wants and needs in your relationship? How to make them feel loved, appreciated and valued even through testing times?

Sickness or not this IS possible and I am going to show you how.

Let me introduce to you the 5 love languages.

Gary Chapman, the author of The Five Love Languages best describes this as the process of learning how your partner wishes to experience and express love. Once you understand which of the five love languages is their predominant language it will allow you to connect on a deeper level than you ever have before, illness or not.

As a migraine sufferer I’m sure you feel pressure to put a brave face on and plan that day out to be romantic just to show him/her how much you care, but with this amazing new tool that won’t be necessary. It’s so much easier than that.

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The Five Love Languages

All you need to do is click here and get your partner to take the test. It literally takes two minutes and once it is completed it will tell you which love language your partner prefers to give and receive love.

Now let’s dive into each category further and break down exactly what they mean.

Physical Touch

This person enjoys the experience of touch. Not necessarily sexual, more just the day to day experience of being close. This person feels loved by that simple hug, cuddling up on the sofa or holding hands. This makes the individual feel safe and secure in their relationship.

Words of Affirmation

This person enjoys being appreciated through words alone. Saying I love you means everything as does praise, compliments and hearing encouraging words of support. These kind and loving words speak wonders to this individual who needs this audio-affirmation to feel secure and loved.

Quality Time

This person feels connected and loved through the power of the quality time that they spend together. This could be doing activities together or simply time at home alone. However, this means having no distractions and the partner’s complete and utter undivided attention.

Acts of Service

This person feels loved when their partner is able to ease responsibility for them. It doesn’t matter how small but offering to make dinner or do the food shop shows them love and commitment. Actions speak louder than words for this individual.

Receiving Gifts

This person feels loved through materialism. A gesture of a gift speaks volumes, especially the thought and effort that went into it. They enjoy being visually spoilt as this makes them feel a deep connection of love to their partner.

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Now you understand what love language your partner wishes to receive, you can go about doing something nice for Valentines Day that aligns with their love language.

For example, if you partners top love language is acts of service then maybe you could look after the kids one afternoon and send your wife off for some R&R time to treat her.

Or if your partner’s love language is quality time, why not dedicate a day solely to each other. No phones, no computers and no TV. Spend that time talking, laughing and enjoying each others company again. This will show them that they are truly loved.

It is also a good idea if you too take the test so that your partner can understand how to make you feel loved each and every day.

Happy Valentines Day!

    #Relationship #Health #Love #Connection #Healing

Groundbreaking Heal Documentary – NOT TO BE MISSED!

As the last scene came to an end and the credits started to roll, tears trickled down my cheeks as I smiled contentedly to myself.
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Inspiring doesn’t even come close.
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As I have proved myself, we all have the ability to heal and now there is scientific proof!
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The Heal documentary focuses on the mind/ body connection and how our thoughts affect our lives and ultimately our health. Good or bad! It is brilliantly put together with numerous experts from their fields such as Deepak Chopra, Bruce Lipton, Marianne Williamson, Anthony Williams and my man, Dr Joe Dispenza.
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It proves that radical remissions happen all around the world from every illness imaginable, and after collecting the data from these individuals to find out what they did to heal, the results were astounding.
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Out of 9 common actions, ONLY TWO of these were physical and SEVEN were mind related. These were:
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  1. Taking control of your health
  2. Following your intuition
  3. Releasing suppressed emotions
  4. Increasing positive emotions
  5. Embracing social support
  6. Deepening your spiritual connection
  7. Having a strong reason for living

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This is proof alone. The documentary then dives deeper into what’s causing so much illness in our world today. And the answer? Stress.

.Did you know that 90% of the illnesses we go to the doctor for are stress-related illnesses? This is because nowadays we are all living in our ‘fight or flight’ response which we are unable to sustain for long periods of time without our bodies eventually getting sick.

The documentary also follows the story of Elizabeth Craig, a self-claimed yoga fanatic and juicer. Elizabeth was diagnosed with stage four cancer but after working with a spiritual psychologist to release past emotions, deal with fear and do some inner child and anger release work, together with only one round of chemo, her tumours vanished! She was cancer free and the doctors couldn’t explain it.
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Incredible. You really have to watch and see for yourself.
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What I also loved about this documentary was that it proved that as much as your thoughts can make you sick, they also have the power to make you healthy again and science proves it. You might not be aware of it but your negative subconscious beliefs could be keeping you rooted in sickness.
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Heal proves that trauma, negatives emotions and subconscious beliefs actually lead to disease.
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GROUNDBREAKING ALERT!
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Other topics the documentary covers include our ever-changing global environment and how that is affecting our health, our diminishing microbiomes resulting in poor gut health, the placebo effect, chronic inflammation and the benefits of meditation to heal.
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I could seriously go on and on about how beautifully inspiring this documentary is all day long but I want you to go away and watch it for yourself.
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And if you are not left with the confidence in your own body and your ability to heal yourself after watching this documentary then I don’t know what will.
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Remember, your body’s ability to heal is greater than anyone has permitted you to believe. 
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Click here to go to the Heal website for viewing information and plenty of extras.

#Heal #MindBody #Believe #Documentary #Inspirational #Health 

 

 

 

Want Instant Pain Relief? Try Binaural Beats!

Are you sick of taking pain-killer after pain-killer and finding that they just don’t work anymore? Do you need some relief? And now? Well, fear not, there is a way that can help you completely medication free!

I am sure like most people, (me included), you won’t have heard of binaural beats? Ok, so what are they then?

Binaural beats are a form of music therapy. The word binaural means “having or relating to two ears”. This represents the process which works by simultaneously sending a marginally different sound frequency to each ear through headphones.

Brainwave entrainment happens inside the brain and is caused by a physiological response. Upon hearing two tones of different frequencies – sent simultaneously to the left and right ears – the brain perceives a third tone based on the mathematical difference between the two frequencies.

The brain then follows along at the new frequency and through this frequency is able to offer stress relief, improved focus, a sleep aid, pain relief and much more.

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This was suggested to me by a GP of mine, holistic minded of course, so I thought it was worth a try, and I’m so glad I did.

At the time I was struggling with some neck pain and I have to say it took my pain from say a 9/10 to a 2/10! I honestly couldn’t believe it at first and since then I have continued to use it for shoulder pain, neck pain, tension headaches and also for relaxation. 

So all you have to do is grab your headphones, plug in, relax and let the music do the work. The sound is quite unusual when you first listen because it’s simply one tone, but after a while I think it becomes quite therapeutic. Also you don’t feel that you have to listen to the sound at a loud volume, just what is comfortable for you.

You can purchase the tracks online but the best way I found is through YouTube as there are so many different options for all different ailments for free! There are even specific tracks for migraines!

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Below I have listed my favourite ones and the link to them;

I did find however some tracks worked better for me than others so have a play around to find the ones that work for you. Also you can do your own search on YouTube as there are so many others that I have not listed.

And if you don’t believe me, look at all the comments below the videos on YouTube, the proof is in the pudding.

I would love to know how you get on with this and if you find that it helped you too so please feel free to comment below.

Happy listening friends!

#Health #BinauralBeats #HolisticMedicine #MusicTherapy #AlternativeMedicine

(Sources – https://www.binauralbeatsmeditation.com)

 

Could Emotional Stimuli Be An Underlying Cause Of Your Migraines?

Do you currently feel like you are hitting a brick wall when it comes to beating your migraines? Are you trying new treatment after new treatment but yet again nothing seems to work?

If this is the case then there may be something going on deeper beneath the surface that keeps holding you back from breaking free from your migraines.

Meet emotional stimuli.

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Firstly what is emotional stimuli? Well it’s simply any object, event or energy change that elicits a sensory or behavioural response in ourselves. Examples of emotional stimuli could be such things as a change in mood due to a conversation you had with a family member that upset you or feeling overwhelmingly happy due to some great news you recieve.

Whatever emotion it is, fear, anger, joy, sadness, elation, guilt or shame this could be the unconscious cause of your pain without you even realising this. I will give you a personal example of this happening for me.

So during the period of my illness I have felt like a financial burden to my husband who has been supporting me throughout every treatment and turn I take in this journey. It used to fill me with dread every time I had to use our joint account to buy even a few items from the supermarket and anything bigger would give me pangs of guilt and shame due to the fact that I no longer could support myself.

As I continued to struggled with my health, my physiotherapist advised I needed up to 10 more sessions to continue my treatment, however I then later found out that my insurance would no longer be able to cover these sessions. When this realisation hit me I was in pieces . How on earth could I ask my husband to pay for 10 very costly physio sessions? I just couldn’t.

However after talking this through with my incredible, friend and mentor Anthony Cocco who has also beaten chronic migraines, he made me realise how this daily emotional battle I was having with myself over something so small as a pint of milk (almond of course) was causing me physical pain.

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After breaking this down and realising that I am still a great wife even if I cannot contribute financially, I released all that guilt, shame and subconscious tension I had been holding.

As a result it felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders and I could literally breathe again. Instantly my shoulders dropped about an inch from my ear and my headache felt ten times better.

So what I have learnt as I progress further and further on this journey back to health is that nine times out of ten subconsciously there is so much more going on for us underneath the surface that could be causing us physical pain, and emotional stimuli is definitely one of them!

Of course we cannot go through life not feeling any emotions as that’s not how life works, however to help ourselves we need to examine if emotional stimuli is there always on a subconscious level like it was for me all the time and also when those heightened emotions hit, we need to protect ourselves from feeling the extremes of these emotions as it does absolutely no good for our head.

As Anthony Cocco perfectly explains it, we need to “try not to get too high on the highs and too low on the lows” as that reaction to emotional stimuli is enough to without a doubt, cause you a headache.

How do you think emotional stimuli impacts your headaches? I would love to hear from you.

 #Emotions #Healing #Health #Subconscious #Headaches #Mind

 

 

 

My 3 Essential Health Takeaways From 2017

 

Wow, what a year it has been. 2017 has gone by in a flash and when I look back, my god have I come a long way.

From having my last migraine in March 2017 to now being completely free. Don’t get me wrong, I am by no means at the end of my journey and can declare myself totally headache free but it’s sometimes great to reflect and look back on how far you have come because it motivates you to keep on fighting.

So, as a result, I wanted to share with you the 3 biggest health lessons I learnt in 2017 in hope that someone else may be able to relate, benefit or learn from them as I have.

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  1. Triggers Are Not Only Physical

Previous to 2017 I would have classed most of my headache triggers as physical, mainly caused by food and my environment. However, when I dug deep and truly started to listen to my body I realised that the majority of my triggers were actually emotional stimuli.

This could be in the form of anger, anxiety, stress, certain relationships, certain situations, repressed emotions, self-hatred, denial and fear. Without knowing, these underlying emotions and issues were actually what was causing me so much of my pain.

So if you are struggling right now and have become frustrated in your recovery, take some time out to take a look at what’s really going on for you underneath the surface. For me personally, talking to someone was better medication than any doctor could possibly give me.

    2.  You Truly Are The Expert Of Your Own Body

Now I know it sounds really airy-fairy when someone says listen to your body but I never realised how important this was until I made several discoveries by doing exactly that in 2017.

Your body is simply communicating with you every day in every way, we just have to listen. Every pain, emotion, twinge and gut feeling is your body’s way of trying to tell you what it needs.

For me, I found when I began to journal daily (not keep a headache diary, this is very different) it allowed me to really understand how my body reacts to certain situations, foods and emotional stimuli and thus learn from it and change my behaviour moving forwards.

Once again, how could a doctor ever tell you how to heal your body when it’s not talking to them, it’s talking to you! So tune in and listen to the song you are singing.

 

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3. Eating The Right Foods Actually Prevents Headaches

In 2017 I discovered the magic of a whole foods plant-based diet and when I did my life truly began to transform.

By removing all processed foods and upping my intake of fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds and whole grains my migraine frequency and severity began to decrease rapidly until I was left with none. Yes, seriously none!

In the migraine world food is known as evil for triggering attacks, however what so many people don’t know is that you can use food as a tool to prevent attacks and get rid of them all together. Trust me, it worked better than any medication ever did.

 

 #2017 #Health #Lessons #PersonalJourney #Progress #NeverGiveUp 

Pain – Your New Best Friend In Solving Your Headaches

Firstly I want to apologise for the radio silence recently.

Over the last month, I have taken some time out from social media and my blog as I really felt like I really needed to focus on myself without any distractions whatsoever. It was like my gut was telling me that this is what I needed to do, so I listened, took some time out and my god I am so grateful I did.

As I result I made some rather massive breakthroughs by daily journaling and truly honing in and listening to my body.

Don’t get me wrong, this experience brought some painful days along with it, ok, some incredibly painful days, but what I have learnt coming through this is that pain really is your biggest teacher! Pain is your friend in this process, in fact, it’s your best friend on your journey to becoming migraine and headache free! 

Now, I know you might find this hard to believe when you are so used to simply seeing pain as the enemy and root of all evil, however I truly now believe that pain is simply your body’s way of communicating with you that it’s not happy, and our job as experts of our own body is to sit back, listen and try to work out what it is we can do to change this discomfort.

So I’m going to give you an example of how I did exactly that…

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During my recovery, I have learnt so much. What my body likes, dislikes, needs more of and simply hates, and yoga I discovered is one of those things that my body seems to like.
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That being said, a couple of mornings in a row I could feel my neck and shoulders begin to tighten and as I had busy days planned ahead of me, with what obviously seemed like more important things to do at the time, I went about my day and told myself that I will make some time for some yoga tomorrow.
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By day four my god my muscles were tighter than ever, so to compensate for my lack of stretching I did an hour and fifteen-minute session because they were like absolute rock. At this stage, my only option to get me out of this sorry state was to do a lot of very deep, prolonged stretches which I don’t normally do.
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Initially, I felt better for this but a couple of hours later I was in agony, and I mean agony. No joke. As a previous migraine sufferer, I would class myself as a pain connoisseur but this was something else. My scalp, neck and eyes pulsated so hard I literally felt like my head was about to explode. I may have caught just thirty minutes sleep all night as I literally did my best to breathe through every painful second and try to get out the other side.
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Overall, this took me about six full days to recover from this episode, however, the point of this story was to explain that the pain was simply my body’s way of saying NEVER EVER DO THAT TO ME AGAIN!
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 So there is a lesson to be learnt from every painful experience and from this I learnt that;
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  1. My body doesn’t take well to deep stretching, even if I am in pain gentle is the way to go.
  2. I need to make daily yoga a priority in my life to prevent neck and shoulder tension and ultimately headaches.
  3. Prevention is 100% better than cure.

Since learning these lessons I have begun to apply these daily. I experimented with the duration of my morning session, poses and how deep I went with the stretches and I have to say since that day I have prevented the usual neck and shoulder headaches I so often get. Winner!

And to be honest, I am even grateful that the whole experience was an 11/10 on the pain scale because without the experience being so unbearably painful it wouldn’t have stuck in my mind forever more like it is now. No way will I ever miss my morning yoga stretches from now on.

Remember friends, life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react and learn from it.

#Pain #Headaches #Learning #Recovery #Progress #Health 

 

How I Am Managing To Overcome My Anxiety

Anxiety is a funny one, isn’t it? Why spend your time worrying, feeling uneasy and apprehensive about something when you don’t have to? Ha, if only it was that simple. From those that cannot relate, I have frequently heard “Well, just don’t be anxious about it as there’s no point!”. Yes genius, you think I don’t know that?

So now, as I go about my days trying to work on regaining some form of a ‘normal life’, whilst still battling with my pesky neck and shoulder headaches, I have come to realise that I am actually more anxious now than I have ever been.

You think after coming all this way that this would be the easy part, right? You know, integrating into society again, doing all the things that you used to do pre-illness? Well, it’s proved harder than I thought, however, this was until I recently discovered the key to overcoming this beast, once and for all.

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This all came to light after a visit to my Physiotherapist. He is without a doubt not what you would call a normal Physiotherapist, and for all the best reasons. Not only does John look at what’s physically causing me pain, he delves deeper into what’s going on in my subconscious and how my mind is influencing my physical body.

After explaining to John how much I long to do ‘normal’ things like completing more than one task in a day or even just being able to sunbathe (yes, ridiculous I know when I live in the flippin’ desert and it’s sunny 365 days of the year), he stopped me in my tracks and asked me why couldn’t I do these things? To be honest, I had no valid answer to give other than they simply made me anxious right now.

That being said, John challenged me to adopt his approach which he likes to call exposure therapy. Simply put, this means basically overcoming what it is you are frightened of by facing it head-on (excuse the pun). So off I set, feeling even more anxious about what I was about to undertake but deep down I knew this had to be done.

If I have learnt anything along this journey, it’s that great things sure don’t come from comfort zones.

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On return from my session, I actually sat down and made a list of all the things that currently made me anxious and then set about to tick them off one by one. My first challenge was sunbathing and not shadebathing for the first time in forever. With frequent dips in the water and of course my trusty hat, it actually felt damn right glorious to finally soak up some rays.

Next I tackled having a group of friends round for a BBQ, something we hadn’t done in so long. It went so well that the whiskeys were still flowing at midnight (obviously not mine) but I made my way through seven hours of hosting! My other small victories included going for a beach walk in the sun before breakfast with my friend, lunch in a busy cafe and I know it sounds small but even just staying out during the day without coming back to the safety of home.

Of course, attempting these things made me anxious but by overcoming these small feats has taught me that I CAN do more than I think and gives me the confidence next time to push myself even further.

Remember friends, you are only confined by the walls that you build.

#Physiotherapy #Headaches #Anxiety #HealthCoach #MyJourney

 

 

Social Media – A Healing Help Or Hinderance?

Ahhh social media. For most people, It’s like Marmite. You either love it or you hate it, but if I had to guess I would say that 99% of people would admit to loving their daily dose of Facebook goss, Instagram stories, and Twitter rants. And let’s be honest, most of us would be lost without it.

The routine of waking up each day and reaching for our phone so we can make sure we are up to date with “what’s going on in the world” real or not, even before we leave our bed has somehow become as routine as brushing our teeth is every morning! Or is that just me?

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After all, social media is just fun and games, right? But to someone who has, or still is, suffering with a chronic illnessor any illness for that matter I’m sure has already found out that it can either be a comforting tool to connect with others in a similar situation or a tool to make you feel even more insufficient, small and a more of a failure than you already do.

One of the biggest lessons I have learned upon my journey of recovery from migraines is that in order for your body to have the optimal chance to heal and repair it needs to be in the best possible place both physically and emotionally and for me, as hard as it was, that meant learning to be ok with exactly where I was in that moment. Not judging myself for where I “should” be, how I “should” be feeling and what I “should” be doing,  but just being patient with my body and trying to find some peace in the current moment.

However, the daily hours I would spend flicking through my social media feed only left me feeling completely inadequate compared to the rest of the world that seemed like that they were living the best days of their lives! 

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Unfortunately, this is where social media is going to do you no favors. As Theodore Roosevelt once said “Comparison is the thief of joy” and boy was he right.

Personally, throughout my journey of recovery, there have been several points at which I have taken a break from social media and honestly, try it! It does you the world of good.

When you suddenly don’t have to prove to everyone that you’re having a great time at a beach completely headache free or that you’re eating the healthiest salad in the coolest cafe, you suddenly feel a real sense of freedom and most of all relief from the expectation of the world and what you “should” be doing. This, in turn, allows you to be ok in that moment which is exactly what your nervous system is desperate for.

So what if where you are right now is in bed, reading a book, dealing with the aftermath of a migraine! And so what if you can only walk on a treadmill at the gym for 15 minutes when everyone around you seems to be doing some sort of military assault course! Where you are right now is perfect for you and as soon as you come to realize that, your health will be able to blossom. 

Why not try a seven-day social media detox for yourself and see how you feel mentally, emotionally and physically afterwards? I would love to hear how you get on.

 #Blogger #SocialMedia #Healing #Migraines #Headaches 

 

 

 

There Is No Such Thing As The “Perfect” Diet

In this day and age, as a human race we have never before had access to such an abundance of information so readily available at our fingertips. Granted, this is an incredible thing, but when it comes to the world of nutrition and food this can become particularly confusing.

Through platforms such as social media, the news and the internet we are now bombarded with the latest scientific research claiming that the “perfect diet” has been discovered. Whether this be the mediterranean diet, the latest keyto craze or the vegan way of living, it doesn’t actually matter because unfortunately I am here to give you some bad news. Don’t believe what you read friends because there is actually no such thing as the “perfect diet”.

Yes, I know, it’s true. And breathe.

Phew, now that’s out in the open, I can explain to you why….

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Joshua Rosenthal, the founder of The Institute of Integrative Nutrition, where I studied to become a Health Coach, best describes this as “one man’s food is another man’s poison”. This essentially means that what works for me, may not work for you and I’m going to give you a great real life example of this.

So when I switched to a whole foods plant-based diet I noticed such a huge change in my health and a huge reduction in my migraines. Amazing! And as I had been studying the benefits during my training at IIN, I had been educating my Mum on this during the process. She was totally inspired and decided that she too would adopt a plant-based diet due to all the wonderful health benefits it provided.

Initially this wasn’t a problem until a couple of months in when she started to experience some stomach issues. After a trip to the doctor she discovered that she was actually suffering with gastritis and this had been mainly caused by the foods she had been eating! Lots of spices, cooking oils and tomatoes turned out to be the main culprits in her discomfort which had been the staple for nearly every single plant-based meal she had been eating.

So on the flip side, my Mum now consumes a diet high in fermented foods including soy products, good quality dairy, cheese, bread, eggs and pasta all which are soothing on her stomach but all of which are my form of poison! If I were to eat the foods she now consumes I would be one big headachy, migraine mess!

One person’s food really is another person’s poison so you simply have to find what works for you yet still maintain a healthy balanced diet high in fruits, vegetables, healthy proteins, complex carbohydrates and healthy fats.

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Another reason that there is no such thing as a “perfect diet” is because we are all completely individual and unique in life and our needs nutritionally are no different. What our bodies need depend on:

  • Our age – A growing teenager’s intake of calories would need to be different to a retired pensioner.
  • Our physical activity level – Are you very active or do you live a more sedentary life?
  • Our ancestry – Are you eating the foods that match your heritage or going against your culture?
  • Our job – Do you sit in an office all day or are you physically active at work?
  • Our health – Do you have a health condition that requires certain foods to be consumed and avoided?

Considering all these factors, I hope it’s now easier to see that there is no way that there could be a “perfect diet” for us as a whole, just the perfect diet for you.

#Nutrition #Food #Diet #HealthCoach #PerfectDiet

Amazing Things Happen When You Get Out Of Your Own Way

Recently I hit a bit of a brick wall. No one tells you that after beating chronic migraines that there will be a whole other chapter that you have to face afterwards. Extreme tiredness no matter how many hours you seem to sleep, brain fog, headaches and muscle aches seem to be the most prominent symptoms right now.

So as you can understand, I have felt somewhat frustrated by this newest revelation. As close as I thought I was, I am not yet able to spend all day at the beach like my friends, go to parties and busy social events like ‘normal’ people do or make it all the way through a wedding, which I have to admit has been driving me pretty crazy. All I have recently been focusing on was what I couldn’t do. In turn this then made me super emotional (yes, even more than normal), highly sensitive and creating so many other issues for myself that of course weren’t issues whatsoever!

After what I would call a ‘mini meltdown’ or what my good friend Anthony calls ‘a checkpoint’ in my recovery journey, I had an epiphany. I realised that all the frustration, anger and emotional upset that I was creating by not being exactly where I wanted to be, was causing me actual physical pain and stopping my body’s ability to heal.

Not so coincidentally, it was at this point Gabriella Bernstein’s book “The Universe Has Your Back” made an appearance in my life and from this point on everything changed.

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The book teaches you that by trusting in the universe and it’s ability to guide you, allows you to no longer live in fear and negative emotions. The aim is to perceive any problem that arises in your life through the teacher of love, meaning it has been sent as a lesson and is part of the process. Choose to embrace it and be at peace with it.

Gabriella says that every obstacle is simply a detour in the right direction so simply trust the process as the universe has a higher plan for you.

One of my favourite quotes from the book is “Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait and wait without anxiety”. This was a game changer for me as I realised that due to my uncertainty and view of my situation from the position of scarcity and lack, this is why I was experiencing anxiety, fear and so much tension. And as I know from my migraines, in order for the body to be able to heal it needs homeostasis and a calm nervous system which is certainly not what I was creating for myself.

My second epiphany came after attending a positivity talk at the Brahma Kumaris center in Brighton. The speaker delivered a sentence that completely changed my view on where I am right now in my journey. He said “Pain may be present but suffering is a choice.”

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Ok, let’s hear that again and really think about it. Pain may be present, but suffering, is, a choice. Bingo! I suddenly had all the answers I needed. With Gabriella telling me to lean towards love and joy by trusting that my highest good is coming to me, and with this incredible revelation from the speaker also telling me that I can still find love and joy even in pain, I realised that this was what I needed to do in the next step of my journey to heal my body. So that’s what I have been doing!

I visited my Grandad and looked over beautiful family photos and soaked up the love and joy reminising with him.

I have enjoyed lovely afternoons in watching films with my Mum, laughing, being totally present and grateful for these priceless moments with her.

I even found the joy in simply being alone, tucked up in bed with a good book and a cup of herbal tea. As a result my health has definitely benefited, and to be honest, I feel ten times happier than I did before making these changes.

We have a choice in the world to choose scarcity, lack, conflict, anxiety, tension and fear which will all manifest in our physical body, or we can choose to live in peace, love, serenity and joy by finding the good in every situation and trusting in the universe.

What will you choose?

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