Are Negative Emotions Causing You Physical​ Pain?

Have you ever wondered why when you’ve had an argument with a friend or family member you have a banging headache afterwards?

Trust me, this is no coincidence.

At first, I couldn’t see the link between negative emotions and pain. Well, this was probably because in the beginning all my pain just merged into one big mess so there was no way to differentiate one ache from another. However, throughout my healing journey, it suddenly became clear that there was an obvious link.

It didn’t matter what negative emotion I felt; fear, anger, resentment, frustration, disappointment, rage, jealousy, grief or sadness, it would all seem to manifest in my body the same way.



I first discovered this at the beginning of my healing journey. After losing my dream job to chronic migraines I was heartbroken. Feelings of anger, frustration and immense sadness filled my being every second of every day. I was literally grieving for my loss.

But after reading Louise Hay’s book “You Can Heal Your Life” I started to realise that those feelings were preventing me from healing. I had to let go and come to a place of acceptance, self-love and compassion for myself in order for anything to change. Going through this process I released so many of those harmful emotions and as a result, my body started to naturally heal itself. 

“The first step for any kind of healing and freedom is acceptance” – Peter Crone, Heal Documentary

Now being migraine free, it’s even easier to spot these instances. It’s so black and white there is no denying it. For me, I feel this instantly in my neck and shoulders but other people may feel it elsewhere.

Of course in life, we cannot completely avoid feeling negative emotions, we are human after all. However, there are steps you can take to reduce feeling those intense negative emotions on a regular basis that will over time start to benefit your health.

Give it a go! I promise you that you will only feel happier and healthier for it.


   1. End Relationships That Don’t Serve You

Yes, it is ok to do this.  I would advise you do to a friend audit. Spend some time working out who lifts you up and who drags you down? Who are you excited to meet up with and who do you dread interactions with and feel drained afterwards? Who serves your health and who doesn’t?

   2. Control Your Reactions

Whilst trying to reduce negative emotions in my life I realised that so much of this was in my control. After all, 10% is what happens to you and 90% is how you react to it, so I simply had to make better choices. Walk away, distract yourself or just be the bigger person. Trust me, you are the only one who suffers and it’s never worth the pain.

   3. Step Away From The Drama

We all have those friends, right? The ones whose life just seems to be one drama after another? It’s not a coincidence by the way, they attract it. I had to end several friendships along my journey for this exact reason. Step away from the drama and watch your health flourish.

   4. Be Kinder To Yourself

Negative emotions don’t just come from our external environment, so many of the negative emotions we feel come from our inner world. We inflict pain on our bodies by feeling emotions such as unworthiness and self-loathing. So spend some time looking at whats going on internally and what emotions you feel on a daily basis that could be affecting your health.

   #HealthCoach #Pain #Heal #Migraine #Stress #Health 




  1. Absolutely love this post. Negative emotions definitely play part – I can confirm this too. It’s funny because as soon as I started working on an upcoming university assignment, my shoulders rose to my ears! I’m going to try implementing more of this in my life. Thank you Kristie!

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    1. Ah I’m so glad you enjoyed the post. Isn’t it amazing how much this affects our body’s? The first step I learned was awareness of this and from there, then you can start to change this reaction so you are half-way there. Good luck hun on your journey.

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